Will my baby prefer the nanny over me?
Posted by staff / December 7, 2010
Working parents have a lot to consider when it comes to leaving their child in the care of a nanny. Will the baby be safe? Will the nanny respect our child-rearing values? How much is this going to cost us?
After these questions are answered, another could come up parents may not be prepared for. What to do about the jealous feelings you have toward your nanny. If you’re having trouble coming to terms with your nanny’s special relationship with your baby, it may help to consider the process by which children form emotional attachments. Read on to learn more.
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When you hire a <a href="http://www.nannies4hire.com/">nanny</a>, you check her background, references and experience. You want the perfect person to care for your children – someone that they’ll love and want to spend time with.
But what if they love her too much?
It’s common for mothers to feel threatened by – and envious of – their nannies. It’s often difficult to leave your kids to go to work, and here’s this “other woman” who gets to do all of the fun stuff that you’re missing – playing with your kids, teaching them new things…even being there for their milestones. Talk about major mommy guilt!
It’s natural to feel possessive and protective of your kids – that’s the maternal instinct. It’s also OK to need help with childcare – it takes a village to raise a child, right?
But hiring a nanny, which is supposed to make our lives easier, can be complicated, as many mothers struggle with the unique dynamic of this relationship. You’re having an intensely intimate relationship with your employee: she has become an instant part of your family. She sees you at your most vulnerable (in your bathrobe after a sleepless night with a sick baby), she gets a glimpse into your personal life (your house is always messy) and she’s sharing the most personal, familiar routines with your children. She’s comforting them when… http://blog.nannies4hire.com/nanny-envy/189