A man’s guide to seeing women as women, not objects
Posted by Josh Taylor / February 5, 2014 conversationwomen
This article is something that every man needs to read and share. In it, you’ll find a persuasive argument that you need to stop seeing members of the opposite sex (or the same sex) as sex objects. From the article:
Someday I am going to have to have the conversation with my son. No, not the conversation all parents dread giving and all kids are mortified having. I enjoy making people uncomfortable so that conversation should be fun. No, I’m talking about another conversation. The one that happens after I catch his eye doing what male eyes do well – following an object of lust. We will probably be out at the mall, because that’s what dads do with their sons, and I’ll catch the look. Maybe we’ll go to the beach and see it. Doesn’t matter where it is, there will come a time when I will see it. And then it will be time for this conversation:
“Hey, come here. Let me talk to you. I saw you look at her. I’m not judging you or shaming you. I know why you did. I get it. But we have to talk about it because how you look at a woman matters.
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A woman’s body is beautiful and wonderful and mysterious. Respect it by respecting her as an individual with hopes and dreams and experiences and emotions and longings. Let her be confident. Encourage her confidence. But don’t do all this because she is weaker. That’s the biggest bunch of crap out there. Women are not weaker than men. They are not the weaker sex. They are the other sex.
I’m not telling you to not look at women. Just the opposite. I’m telling you to see women. Really see them. Not just with your eyes, but with your heart. Don’t look to see something that tickles your senses, but see a human being. My hope is that changing how you see women will change how you are around them. Don’t just be around women. Be with women.
Full story at Beauty Redefined.
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So simple yet made so difficult to practice…see women & not just look at them.
I am a 44 year old woman who has spent her life wondering why men cant just talk to me, be by my side at work, social and so on, I am so distressed by the sexual abuse forced on me and around me. I have counselled a catalogue of men,women, boys and girls who have been sexually assaulted and abused. When I bring up the subject people say your a feminist that doesn’t know what’s she’s talking about.. Sex is one of the strongest sexual desires which keeps humans on the planet yet we do not educate our children on how their minds and bodies will work and about relationships. I am tired of seeing scantily clad provocative women on tv and newspapers and tired of listening to the abuses. What is wrong? There are space stations. men who have been to the moon, understanding of the big bang theory, cures for diseases? Am I missing something here, I recently threatened a man with my kick boxing skills due to so many times men just wanting my body. I like to think of myself as a woman with morals education care and responsibility for myself and those around me, so what’s going on. Most women are mothers, amazing human beings who give up their needs to bring up children, should they not be respected and supported. If not why don’t men have their own babies just men and they can all shout and fight each other and play games with guns and war heads. MAYBE PUT AN END TO ALL LIFE SUFFERRING?!